By My name is Shayla, and this blog is where I lay my truths down like bricks—messy, cracked, but
sacred. This is the space where I peel back the layers. Where survival becomes art. Where
healing doesn’t have to be linear or pretty. Just real.
I’m a Black woman in my forties.
A single mom of three resilient, beautiful children.
I live with Bipolar II, ADHD, Autism Spectrum Disorder, and PTSD—a collection of diagnoses
that don’t define me, but do shape the way I move through the world.
I’ve survived sexual assault, divorce, foreclosure, and bankruptcy, and yet here I am—still
rising, still creating, still becoming.
Some days I’m a storm.
Some days I’m the sky after rain.
But every day, I show up—in my softness and in my strength.
This blog isn’t about perfection.
It’s about the quiet battles women fight while keeping households afloat and hearts from
shattering.
It’s about unlearning shame.
It’s about writing through the trauma.
It’s about dating at forty in a social media world that mistakes filters for connection.
It’s about navigating motherhood with grief on one shoulder and hope on the other.
I write about colorism, self-worth, and what it means to be a dark-skinned Black woman in a
world that often tries to shrink us.
I write about love, not just romantic love, but the radical act of loving yourself after life has tried
to unmake you.
Sometimes I write with fire.
Sometimes with tears.
Sometimes with a glass of wine I shouldn’t be drinking.
But always with truth.
If you’ve ever felt too broken, too tired, too “different,” too much or not enough—this space is for
you.
If you’re trying to raise kids while carrying your own childhood like an old, aching wound—this
space is for you.
If you’re fighting to reclaim your joy, your story, your voice—this space is for you.
Because I believe in telling the truth.
In being messy and magical at the same time.
And in letting every scar shine in the light like gold.
Welcome to my corner of the internet.
Let’s be honest here.
Let’s be human here.
Let’s rise, together.
With love,
Shayla
